Today i came across this picture that my best friend Sheila Serser shared on her wall and i decided to tell a story a bout it.
The girl you are seeing is Caren with her boyfriend Victor. I have known Caren for about 3 years. She is Serser’s best friend and they resemble. Curren’s story is unique and one that has taught me alot of lessons.
One of the lessons is that campus relationships can grow into a marriage if well cultivated. However, do not feel obligated to be in the a relationship because of pressure from your friends. Dating is not for everyone and our desires are different.
Second and most important is the value of appreciating what you have and sticking to it no matter how much people criticize you.
While in campus we used to go hanging out with Caren and other friends in a group we called Torok family. I noticed that most of the time Caren used to ask her boyfriend if he was comfortable with her hanging out with friends. Many who are in a relationship hardly do this. The end result is trust issues begin to arise and the biggest impediment to successful relationships is trust.
When Curren could sense that her boyfriend is not okay with her going to hangout with friends. She could cancel the plan of going out with friends at the last minutes for the sake of her relationship.
Many friends would rebuke her. Many would tell her “umekaliwa”. Many would tell her my boyfriend can’t control me. But what many forget is that when you are in a relationship where you have all the freedom to do what you want without consulting your partner then that relationship is headed in a wrong direction. That when you are in a relationship you remain one thing and in most cases you have to make decisions together. No one person should be questioning the decisions you made because you made them alone.
Caren sticked to the simple rules of dating and now she stands in a good position than those friends who used to rebuke her. She is expecting some few weeks from now and i dedicate this post to her and Victor.