Various studies have been conducted by scholars in the field of psychology about violence. Findings from these studies indicate that domestic violence takes place when a relationship is founded on power and control. Domestic violence does not only involve physical abuse but it also involves sexual, verbal and emotional abuse. The obvious result of domestic violence has been the disruption of families. There are three main cycles of violence.
Cycles of Violence
- Tension Building
This is the first stage of violence; in this stage the abuser may be critical, victimizing, moody and tough. The person undergoing violence still feels he or she has some control over the state and may try to calm down the abuser so as not proceed to the next battering stage. With the rise in tension, these efforts become less operative. The abuser’s negative conduct worsens and may start to comprise of direct threats of violence. At this stage the abused person seeks outside aid as well as professional assistance.
In this stage, the abuser’s conduct intensifies to physical or life-threatening emotional violence and the person may feel totally helpless in regulating the intensification. Some persons undergoing violence may precipitate the beating incident so as to forget it and reclaim some sense of control. Some of the interventions needed in this stage include medical attention and crisis mediation.
- The “Honeymoon”
In this stage, the abuser may constantly express genuine feelings of repentance or remorse and may reward his companion with gifts or attention. Then again, the abuser realizes his or mistakes and promises never to repeat them again. The person who underwent the violence may feel comforted that the abuse or battering is gone and may forgive the batterer. Psychologists indicate that at this this moment, the person undergoing violence requires support as well as information to assist him or her recognize manipulative behavior or deeds. It is essential to remain dedicated to safety.
Different Types of Domestic Abuse
As mentioned earlier domestic violence occurs in different forms. There are many types of domestic abuse but this paper will discuss the three main kinds of domestic abuse which include physical abuse, emotional abuse, and sexual abuse.
- Sexual abuse
Sexual abuse does not necessarily imply using force to have sex with someone, however it can as well encompass having sex with a person who cannot refuse because of disability, illness, or a person who is drunk. Sexual abuse can also be categorized into three; using force to have sex with a person, having sex with a person that is not in a position to decline and abusive sexual contact.
Additional instances of sexual abuse include hurting a person in the process of having sex and having sex with a person without protecting against sexually transmitted diseases. Currently, the punishments accompanying sexual abuse have been made more severe in order to reduce cases of sexual abuse.
- Physical violence
The abuser’s aggressive behavior or physical attack can range from hurting to murder. It mainly starts with slight contacts that accelerate into more recurrent and severe attacks. In some cases, physical violence involves using a weapon to harm another individual. Other forms of physical violence include: Burning, grabbing, choking, shoving, strangulation and refusing medical.
- Emotional abuse
The abuser’s mental violence can comprise of anything that affects the mental health as well as the well being of their companion. Besides, emotional abuse involves using threats to cause a person emotional trauma.Some of the forms of emotional abuse include insults, withholding information, socially isolating one from family and friends, stalking and monitoring the victim.
In conclusion, the sufferer of domestic violence acts is perhaps the only person who is in a position to define what is considered as domestic violence. This is because, the sufferer may undergo domestic violence but he or she may not consider it as violence from his or her point of view. For instance, a woman may be restricted by her husband from visiting her friends, to psychologists, this is termed as emotional violence; however, the woman may consider this as respect to her husband but not domestic abuse.