Kids imitate people around them and so what they hear or see plays a role in shaping them. Sometimes, parents may engage in conversational topics that children should rather not hear them talk of.
Parents need to take caution when discussing financial issues, arguing, gossiping or criticizing others as such topics could negatively affect the behavior of children.
Young children learn to judge themselves or others through their parents’ comments. During their teens, children undergo a host of physical changes, which makes them a bit self-conscious.
Parents, especially mothers, need to be careful about what they say to their partners about their appearance.
Self-critical comments, such as those about weight gain, are likely to influence how girls’ judge themselves. The more you degrade yourself, the more likely your children will do the same.
What you say of other people and how you say it may affect your child’s perception of the world. While it might difficult to avoid telling your partner about who did what in the office during the day, it might be better to exercise restraint until your are sure the kids will not overhear you.
Children may repeat what they heard you say to other people, according to Childcare. Gossiping may also influence children to believe that talking bad of others is okay.
While it might be acceptable to make children understand that sometimes people do argue, demeaning your spouse in their presence is certainly not right. Some of the nasty things said may negatively affect your child’s ability to maintain relationships in future.
Kids need to understand that disagreements do happen, but they do not necessarily lead to a fight. It is more important for them to see you solving disagreements amicably, as this may build their problem solving skills.
There are things that adults have to talk about, such as finances, the health of a relative, sex life or negative behaviors of a spouse. Nevertheless, it is may not be wise to talk about such topics in the presence of kids.
You may feel the urge to include your older children in conversations like financial issues but they are not yet prepared – morally, emotionally or intellectually – process such information.